When we first began our journey into the poly world we had rules set up between hubby and I about our own relationship. We felt like we had to protect it at all costs. After all we'd been together longer. Our relationship was more important. My logical mind understood the reasons behind this mindset but my heart despised it. Having this set up felt icky to me. It felt like we were keeping our other relationship from being able to grow and our partner from being allowed to feel like a person.
I asked my husband if we could please drop the rules so we could be free to love one another however it happened naturally. If all 3 of us felt like spending time together we could. If only 2 of us felt like spending time together we could. If any of us felt we wanted or needed more time with someone we could be free to do so without worrying about who's turn it was to be with that person. He agreed so I presented the idea to our girlfriend. She didn't have any objections either. So here we are. We are free from rules, obligations, expectations....we're finally free to be ourselves.....we can love without having to feel like we might upset someone else in the triad. Of course it's still a work in progress. We will inevitably stumble along the way. We're human after all.
It's been so incredibly liberating to feel this free. I lay in bed at night watching my two loves hold one another as they sleep. The looks of happiness, joy, contentment, and love on their faces is so beautiful. I haven't felt this happy in a very long time.
No comments:
Post a Comment